When you lie with dogs...

Well, my decision from the previous post was made - I'm not going to do it. I was supposed to take pictures at a girl's wedding who I used to be friends with, but she turned into a super-bitch to all my friends and deleted me as a friend off her facebook account. This lead me to believe that she doesn't actually consider me a friend and I sure as hell will not do favors for enemies. Besides, you don't treat my friends the way she did and expect me to be nice still. God, I'm glad I've graduated and I don't have to deal with the bitch any more.

Decisions, decisions, decisions...

I'm sorta stuck between a rock and a hard place right now. Here's the story (I'm going to speak in very general terms so as not to expose the identity of anyone involved)...

I was asked to be a part of something very important for a friend who I was very close to at one point, but have not really talked to in a long time on the same level as I previously did for varying reasons. This is on the same day as one of my other friend's very important thing. Friend A has not been so friendly to some of my other friends in the last few months, which really makes me mad. Friend A asked me to do this very important thing a long time ago (say, three months or so) before I even knew about Friend B's very important thing. I have known Friend A longer than Friend B. Friend B is friends with all my other friends, most of which will be at this very important thing (some of whom Friend A has been mean to). Only a few of my friends will be at Friend B's important thing. I have already said I would do this important thing for friend A and don't want to back down on my word. But a part of me thinks Friend A is just using me and doesn't truly want me at this very important thing. Now, Friend B, I think, has invited me to her very important thing, but I don't know all the details. (I think she just gave me and my friends a generalized invitation.) But Friend A has given me a detailed invitation and has personally invited me and not those friends she's been mean to, which makes me think that she might still consider me a friend, but not the others. There are two problems with doing this very important thing for Friend A: I would have to borrow something from someone else (which I have already arranged to do, if I need it) to do this important thing and my boyfriend would not come with me because he and Friend A do not get along. For Friend B, however, I have not been obligated to anything specific and my boyfriend would be more willing to come.

So my question is, do I keep my word and do what I said I would for Friend A though we're not near as close anymore and she's has been really rude to those people who I still consider my best friends? Or do I skip out and go to Friend B's important thing where all my other friends will be? I might see about what the possibility of doing both would be, but I highly doubt I could make it.

Doing this thing for Friend A will help me develop my personal skills, but I'm just wondering if it's worth the trouble.

If I know you and you want to know the story in more specific terms to offer more sound advice, just IM me or something. Sorry I had to keep it so vague, but I'm sure you can catch on.

Cat's outta the bag

So, the cat's out of the bag and I told a few people what I think I might be doing soon. This all kinda came up randomly, but that's how I roll. For those of you who might worry, I try to make educated decisions when it comes to changes this big.... So, here goes...

Michael and I have decided to move to Arizona (somewhere close to Phoenix) sometime before fall. Now, it might seem like we just closed our eyes and pointed at a map of the United States to make this decision, but that's not the case. He actually has a friend and I have some family who lives there, so we wouldn't be completely starting out in a place where we know nobody. My father has also discussed the possibility of moving there as well. I've already done a search for apartments and jobs and I'm excited about the prospects. One job I found as a technical writer (whose qualifications I meet) paid $80-$100k. Holy moly! The apartments I found were comparable to the one I live in now and some were actually less expensive. Even the crime rates and cost of living were similar, according to www.bestplaces.net. We both like that it's sort of a mid-way point between Oregon and Arkansas and that it's so close to areas with lots of opportunity (especially California). It will cost me about $200 less in plane tickets every time I want to see my family in Oregon as well. There are other things I've looked at too...

...like gas (which ranges from $2.77-$3.12 in Arizona, $2.63-$2.95 in Arkansas and $2.71-$3.14 in Oregon)
...and schools (University of Arizona has post-graduate psychology and communications programs).

One thing that will suck hardcore about moving there is not being as close to our sisters/brothers and friends. However, one thing I thought was neat is that one of the schools there has Alpha Taus. I've found it pretty easy to make friends, so I'm not too worried about not finding some people to hang out with. And when we're making the big bucks, we can always come back for a visit. Can you say road trip!?

My mom asked me about what I'm doing with my life...if I'm planning my life around Michael. Truthfully, I am...in some ways. I love Michael and I know I want to be married to him. But at the same time, I'm not limiting my possibilities. Since Michael asked me what I thought about moving there, I've been the driving force behind it. I've done the searches for jobs and apartments and comparisons. Michael has been fully supportive of me. He only mentioned Arizona, I've been the one to research putting it into fruition. For a long time I've been worried about what I'm going to do after I graduate...if I want to do something in psychology or mass media...where I want to live...etc. So far everything has been played by ear. I'd planned on looking into state jobs in Arkansas at DHS until I found my niche - you know...what I'm great at and what I enjoy. But most things I've seen in Arkansas have been mediocre, if not limited. Mere job searches in Arizona have exposed me to a lot of different career paths that I hadn't considered before...like psychology and law...technical writing...public relations...etc. I think my mom is concerned that Michael and I aren't married yet and here we are planning a big change like this... That's a concern of mine too, but I know it'll happen soon... At least I'm not venturing out on my own as a naive, fresh-from-college girl with no direction. I'm, at the very least, a naive fresh-from-college girl who will have a companion to accompany and assist me in making the first big step into the real world.

I think this will be a good, fresh start for both of us. I know we haven't looked at everything yet, but we're working on it.

Excited, I am.

Muah!

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Just give me something to blog about

Here's a twist to Bonnie Raitts' "Let's Give 'Em Something to Talk About"...

Just give me something to blog about.
A little mystery to figure out.
Just give me something to blog about.
How about stuff, stuff, stuff?

That's where I am with it right now. I'll have to figure out some alternative lyrics for the verses later.

Anyway, I've been thinking in blog mode for the last few days. When I see something interesting, I want to blog about it.

Such as when we made my cat look like a gangster with a navy blue bandana. Then he did the most un-gangster-like thing and stepped on it and did a faceplant in the floor. (But apparently he still likes it because he hasn't tried to take it off for the last three days.)

Or this morning when I had to take a different road to get to the interstate because I had to fill up my gas tank despite running ten minutes late for school and I saw the most ironic (or progressive) thing I've seen in a while... Now don't get offended here, please...I'm not a racist... But there was a black person waving at all the traffic in front of a pizza place dressed up in a statue of liberty costume. It was just a little odd.

OK, folks, that's all you're getting out of me tonite. I plan to write a few reviews on some things soon...Elizabethtown and Campus Ladies being two of them.

That guy had balls!

So, Michael and I didn't feel like cooking last night so we went to Olive Garden. Our waitor had some balls on him, I must say. Here's the story...

After a couple came in and were seated close to us, he made his way to their table. One of the first things he says to the girl is, "You smell really nice. What perfume is that?" (Meanwhile the guy sitting there is probably steaming.) "Oh, I think Romance. I don't know, I have several and just grab something in the morning." "I think you're right...it smells like Romance."

Michael and I just sit there stunned that he had balls enough to ask her that in front of the dude she was with. It was all I could do to keep from laughing. I imagine that made her day though. Women like to be told they smell and look nice. Kudos to the waitor with the big balls!

Is conversion in my future?

I'm going to try out this blog site for a little while. Xanga has way too many kids on it...and way too many people I know. I'd like to keep this a little more serious...or personal...

I don't have a lot to blog about right now. I've just been working a lot, going to school and playing WoW lately. I feel like such a nerd, but it's good bonding time with my boyfriend, who just so happens to also be my roommate.

I don't have time to think of anything interesting right now...I have too much laundry to catch up on. So, if this thing looks nice and treats me well, I might just convert... We'll see...